How Students Can Deal With Different Kinds of Harassment
The Harvey Weinstein case became a watershed in showbiz, resulting to a domino effect. The film producer wasn't the only one who ended up in disgraced in the public eye, as the career of director Brett Ratner and actor Kevin Spacey are currently in jeopardy after accusations of sexual misconduct. Twitter became the platform for the victims, many of them aspired to make it big in the entertainment industry. It could be a case of better late than never, but the issue sent ripples throughout the mainland and across the Atlantic.
Prominent male figures in entertainment and politics in England, France, and Italy resign or contemplate charge against their accusers. Not a few of their associates and friends became defensive (via social media), fearing a witch hunt that could threaten their livelihood. Why do many (Twitter) users are engrossed in it? This grave issue would challenge the status quo regarding the plight of women, and the men who are in the position of power. It's not only on high-profile fields, but also in places away from the limelight. Let's focus on the school, for instance.
High school girls are susceptible to harassment, even middle school girls. It seems hard to believe, but Hollywood would play a part in it. Not even Cate Blanchett's recent InStyle Awards speech, where she called out on sexism and Steve Bannon's tacky clothes, wouldn't help teenage boys from comprehending the mixed signals while watching the music videos of Ariana Grande. Women are objectified endlessly, and those who have enough of it are hoping that Weinstein's case turn a new page to all women, young and old alike. It might still be a long shot for young girls in schools, who don't have an A-list celebrity in their midst. It's the only way for their plight to be taken seriously, but there are other ways of addressing it.
How to spot a misconduct
Name calling. This is a common occurrence in a student hallway, and whether it's harmless fun (or a prelude to harassment) depends on how the student (being name called) react to it. The first, if not natural, reaction of most girls is to ignore it. They are lucky if it won't be followed with another one, but it's rarely the case. If this becomes frequent, then there's no other way than to respond to it. This leads to trouble.
Lewd comment(s). It's another form of name calling, but there's no doubt about the intention of the student, often male in most cases, saying it to another one. It's always directed to a female (student), and things can get out of hand easily if this is not addressed carefully.
Unwanted touching. Adam Sandler's recent appearance in a British talk show would come to mind, as the comedian repeatedly touched the legs of young actress Claire Foy. Emma Thompson seemed to look at him disapprovingly. It wouldn't be too different from the classroom, where there's a chance for the (young) offender to be grounded after class. Then again, many rather do it on the sly. (There's a thing called consenting teens.)
Bullying. It's a rite of passage for teenagers, which can result to low self-esteem and trauma symptoms. The usual targets are minorities, gender-fluid teens, and students perceived by many as not too good for them. Let's not forget those who struggle with their sexual orientation. You must be normal, which will keep you from trouble most of the time. If you're part of the pack, then you must be a good follower. Many try to change their looks, if not a certain aspect of their personality. It often leads to painful results.
Social media abuse. It can be any kind, including the four previously mentioned before this one. It can have a catastrophic effect if you tend to be open about your thoughts (or feelings) on anyone whom you hardly know in person.
Is there a way out of this mess?
If any of the above threatens you, then you can seek assurance from your parents. Some might not be able to put themselves in your shoes, but you shouldn't take it against them. (There might be pressing matters to attend to.) Talk to your sibling, who can give you one good advice. You can also seek help from the Guidance Office, who knows how to handle such matters.
If you can do something about it, then you better start with what you wear. You might want attention, but think long and hard about it. Is it really worth it? If you can't deal with the problem(s) that arise from it, then dress like anyone else (read: no sexy attire). Your social life would be linked to this one, but it's not hard to figure out the solution. Always be your friendly self without pleasing anyone all the time.
Teenagers do attract to each other, even end up dating (with everyone being aware of it). Nothing to panic if it's happening to you, but don't ever forget why you attend school in the first place.
Transferring to another school is the worst-case scenario. It can happen again unless you learn from the (unpleasant) experience. Furthermore, the unfamiliar surroundings might isolate you for a little while. Can you handle this kind of discomfort? Are you willing to make new friends? You need strong support, which your family and old friends (from your neighborhood) can provide. Consider this option seriously if the harassment is too much for you.
